Have you checked out the
new Blogstream site,
Question Stream.com?
Many Blogstream members are there
already! Quotes from members: "It's like blog lite!" -- "I like the instant
gratification!" -- "Stop spectating, get in the game!"
If you have not joined in, you are really missing out!
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This seems to be a more common blog-end lately. It makes all my hard work seem wasted.
I am very suprised Dan! I am also shocked at your vehemence. My picture of you has always been of an extremely brilliant, witty fellow. Now I think you have a severe grudge against strong women? I personally miss the Old Glorious.............Wife of God........your anger is without fruit of promise. Explain please?
It sounds like you were part of blogstream for a long time, maybe since its inception - - I'm guessin' that it has changed pretty significantly since then, with lots more bloggers and a commensurate increase in diversity. Within the vast numbers and the disparate groups, mini-cliques have sprung up - - not surprising, is it? This is what humans do wherever they are. They start subgroups when the all-encompassing group has become too large to manage. You had your own little subgroup - - certain readers who followed your posts, certain bloggers whose posts you followed. Same with everyone else. No one was asking you to wander into the right-wing camp and sit 'round the fire and sing hymns. If you wanted to venture in there and engage in debate and dialogue, then bully for you. If you wanted to ignore 'em, then go for it.
Same with the rainbow/unicorn crowd - - if you don't care for their style of communication or their subject matter, then why isn't it sufficient to just avoid what you view with distaste? Why the personal attacks? Why the painting-everyone-with-the-same-brush generalizations?
Maybe you feel you're doing a public service in warning them about the "brittle" and "dangerous" qualities of such blogs - - golly, how kind and condescending of you! Where would we be without your stewardship? In all seriousness, most of the folks posting on this site are adults who are able to make up their own minds about what they'll read and what they'll BELIEVE out of what they read and what they'll incorporate into their own lives out of what they read. If blogstream has become an unsatisfactory venue for you to write and read the writing of others, then godspeed. Find a better forum for your tales and commentaries. You can trust that the rest of us will continue watching out for ourselves and that we'll all continue to express ourselves however we damn well want to.
Whatever your deal is with Colo, work it out with her. Or don't. Or work it out with yourself in an adult fashion. Or don't. Ultimately, it's all sound and fury, signifying nothing - - it matters very, very little in the scheme of things.
Dan, I had a great appreciation for your creativity, your biting wit, your evident intelligence, and your silliness. My hope was that, if you chose to address this issue again on blogstream, you'd do so with some integrity and honor, but instead you posted the same petty, nasty, personal attack you'd previously left us with. It's a bummer - - my impression of you was that you could do much, much better than that.
Regardless, I appreciate that you've allowed comments this time. I wish you all that's good.
And don't despair about blogstream, it will continue on, for there are angels keeping a watch this night...
Dan
Although, please be assured Blumoon, that i really do not have a problem with strong women.... Why does everyone asumme that to be strong, women must be manipulative and controling. Passive aggression is not good in men or women and certainly should not be equated with inner strengh.
Best regards to you both...
dan
I'm not going to step in and give my opinion of others in this lovely place I've come to be totally addicted to except that all that I've said to you goes for every one else here too. I have confided in her (Colo)and am willing to allow what ever comes of it.
Dan, there are personalities that are necessary for any environment, and yours is for here. I didn't think there was a law that stated that this place is a formal affair and every one has to grin and pretend that they love everything and everyone. If there is, please forgive me for missing the fine print.
As with you, I have come to respect Colo, though she has had an injury, I've seen she is a very capable adult who is able to argue for herself. But Dan, honestly, you must admit you got off pretty lightly compared to what the fall out could have been.
"Dan, the man with balls"! After saying that, gee I hope your not a woman. Some of these people can write and under the guise of another sex, well, it can be very scary/confusing. Truly I hope you don't go, but if you must, you certainly went out with a bang and lots and lots of fire works. Very entertaining. If I could, I would love you very much. You'd be my brother and I'd watch you shine as you created the best fire works for all to see. Affection and best wishes...
I can also see how an adiction to an audience can lead to a watering down of ones writing.
That being said, I think that you might have fallen into the same trap that you are denouncing. It seems to me that sooo many people look to blogstreem for socialy fulfilling interaction. Fuck that, we are flesh and blood people and to look for satisfaction in a world of syntax and fancy wallpaper is to invest too much of ourselves in a place that can only give so much back.
I've read blog posts in which people talk about love and friendship. Frankly, it makes me sad. While I definitely enjoy particular peoples writing and the corespondence I have with them I am not so naive as to convince myself that any relationship I have here is by any means real.
I write because I think I have things that people might want to read. If I took it any farther than that then only I would be to blame for any pain I may feel due to an over indulgence in cyber-life.
What do you care if some particular member of Blogstream has gained a following, deserved or not? The bloggers that take these people's words as the truth have obviously found something in these "author's" posts that they haven't found in the real world and it isn't up to any of us to tell them it's wrong.
That's where some of us have gone wrong. We stopped looking at this medium as an OUTLET and have started to come here SEARCHING for things that we feel are missing in the lives we are actually living .
I think The Valkyrie made some pretty good points but I difer from her on one issue in particular. You haven't shit away the rest of your writing by freaking out on this post. You have just shown that you have had a bigger emotional investment in this shit than, I think, you are willing to admit.
Fuck, I'm drunk and rambling. If I had to sum up my opinion on matters like these in one sentence I can only think of one way of saying it so that's what you're going to get.. "LIGHTEN THE FUCK UP PEOPLE. THIS SHIT AIN'T REAL".
And man, there are some of us out here expressing our opinions regardless of the consequences.
Moody
Now don't get me wrong, I don't thrive on argument all of the time, but its sure good to blow out the cobwebs every now and then..
Much repect to you both and Blumoon and Valk....
Best regards
Dan
Allow me to add my voice to those who call for you to continue your blog. Your intelligence and wit have made Blogstream an enjoyable place to visit. If you decide to leave, you will be missed.
Itinerant Woman
I agree with Moody, Whit, Val, and the rest, everyone has made excellent points. I've enjoyed visiting your blog, and if you decide to leave, you will take with you a strong voice that a lot of people have enjoyed.
But you do what you think you need to do.
Let me at least try to explain something to you, though, that I think you may be missing. You 'dis' on the 'love' factor here, accusing many of becoming soft and fluffy. But there's more going on than I think you know.
I have become very close to Solid, we've gone beyond the internet and talk almost daily now on the phone. I wouldn't have met this wonderful woman without Blogstream. And she has helped me, and continues to help me, with the grief I battle with daily from my brother's death. I don't know if I'd even be able to function without the wisdom she's shared with me from her own loss of her son.
I love her as a dear friend, we've bonded, and that didn't happen overnight. I've been on Blogstream since about October, so it was a friendship that developed over time. As we shared the things we'd experienced, we found so many similarities in our lives, similar heartbreaks, similar joys, and as humans do, friendship grew out of the sharing.
Do I love her? Damn skippy, I do, as a dear friend and someone who has proven herself to be unfluffy and tough as nails when she needs to be! She battles Lupus, yet is still an activist and cares for her family and has not given up on life because of her disease or the tragic loss of her son through murder. She's earned my respect, and is top of my list of special people in my life and on Blogstream.
There are many levels of 'love'. Just because someone says Love ya Colo, it doesn't mean they are being all mushy and gooey and fluffy. On these blogs, people share the essence of who they are, there is no skin color unless one chooses to let others see a real pic of oneself, there is no judgement based on whether someone is skinny or fat or tall or short. And you have no way of knowing if at least some of these people may be communicating offline as well, which also helps to build stronger connections among people.
If what someone writes speaks to a reader, and they relate to it, that reader will come back to see what else the blogger has written. Over time, internet friendships have grown through the blogs. Maybe if we met in the real world, we couldn't stand each other. But if people find some happiness and can connect with others here, who cares? Let 'em.
Another difference that maybe some of the guys have trouble with is the fact that women by nature usually tend to open up more to others and share their hearts, and to bond with other women who have had similar things happen to them, or to reach out to those that they see are hurting and struggling. You guys don't realize that you are witnessing a real phenomenon here on Blogstream, it's a peek into the world of women! Those you refer to that you accuse of being fluffy are, as far as I know, mostly women, and without the interference of societal differences, as we relate to each other through what we write, we've found each other and try to give support to each other for the efforts put into those blogs.
For myself, I'm a sucker, someone who truly does care about people and wants to think the best of folks until they prove otherwise. I'm a hugger, a demonstrative person, and if I were able, I'd adopt every homeless person and animal and give them shelter and love. I'm sappy that way. I try to hold back sometimes, but it usually comes through. It's who I am by my nature, and if any of my sappiness has offended you, I'm sorry. But it's truly who I am. I don't play games, what you read on my blogs is truly who I am, flaws and all. And the thought of hurting someone else makes me sick to my stomach. I have to get REALLY pissed before I get to the point of not caring if I hurt someone! LOL!
Anyway, enough of my ramblings. I just hope you understand what I'm trying to say. We're all doing the best we can in our lives, and we all fail and sometimes succeed. If we can cut each other a little slack, and put all this in perspective, I think we'll see it's a tempest in a teapot, and be able to move on. There's room for all of us on Blogstream, and the address bar can take you to any site that suits you, as you just bypass those that don't.
Happy surfing, and hope to see you keep blogging.
After another big gulp of Guiness this post is still here.
What the FUCK?, Dan. I loved your posts, and always get some smiles and giggles from them. Honey, this is the I-N-T-E-R-N-E-T. What we do when we aren't sitting in front of the machine brainfarting is L-I-F-E. I'm weirded out that Colo poses such a threat to you.
I write with sincerity sometimes, and sometimes I fart. If nobody reads a god damn thing I write, I'm good. I'll cull self satisfaction from the inspired stuff that comprises 3% of what I throw down. You should too. You are talented and clever, and your style is readable and enjoyable. Jeez...I'm snockered.
Unfortunately I have to go, but I don't want this post to be my last anymore, so i'm leaving something else i'm working on at the moment. Thanks for all your comments, I think i may have been wrong about Blogstream...
Well just a little bit!!!
Dan
I would like to say to Pioneer the mother of Blogstream that blog suicide is a normal process. There are many silently active currents in any stream that are strong enough to pull people under. Strong enough to restrict people having freedom of expression. Strong enough to make hate look like love followed by a ha ha or LOL. These currents have peer pressures that require others to adapt and please in order to belong to the clan. Some people just are mot interested in this sort of social adaption and have no alternative but to kill themselves off. Quite a healthy process really and nothing to do with all your hard work. You seem to be a more permissive style of Blog Mother compared to the other sites and that tends to foster creative blogging, individuality and also "clanizing".
I am sure there will be some real suicides as blogging continues over the years. Good luck to you Pioneer.
And Good luck to you Dan the Man, I like the way you were tolerant of the various comments here. I hope you stick to your guns and do what you need to do.
Lipped (out of) synch mexican bandito laughter mouthing the words....
" mucho magnificonts over the border my friend"
Kenoath
(back from the dead) BFD
Wise words indeed and I too like life much better South of the border!
Dan